Integrity and morals are the principles, standards, values by which a person lives their life. If you don't agree with their integrity and morals then you probably won't get much value from them. I am sure that sounds harsh but if your really think about it, you do get some value from each person in your life. Let's take for example, friends. Friends are great because you can call them at any given moment talk about absolutely nothing and everything all at once. You call them when something bad happens. You call them when something good happens. They are your "go to" people in your life that you share your joys and sorrows with. That is the value of friends. Sometimes, your friends start off with the greatest intentions, or for sake of sticking on subject, integrity and morals, and then somewhere down the road their integrity and morals get misdirected or change. Friendships should never be something you have to work hard at. They should be something that comes very naturally and almost effortlessly. When you have to start working hard at a friendship and it becomes more work then fun, it might be time to rethink the friendship. Ever done "trash" removal on your friends? Again, I know it sounds harsh, but a close friend of mine once said to me, "Gena, it is time for you to take out the 'trash' in your life", figuratively speaking of course. She was right too! My friendships at one point, many, many years ago, had turned into way too much work, and yes I did take out the "trash". I cleansed my little world of the drama and BS my friends started to cause in my life. It was too much work. With some we went our separate ways for a couple of years and with others a simple conversation fixed the issues and we went on with our friendship. Drama is definitely something I can live without. Since the initial "cleaning" years ago, I find myself periodically "checking in" to make sure I am not allowing the "trash" to build up. When I do "clean" my life, I usually end up alienating myself a bit but it beats the alternative. If friendships become all work and no fun, then they begin to drag you down or in a direction you never intended to go in. Ever heard the saying, "Birds of a feather flock together"? Well it is true. If your friendships take your down a path that changes you as a person, and not for the better, then it is time to take out the "trash". Just remember, with each door that closes, a door of opportunity opens.
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